Category Archive: Investments

Maybe You’re Too Selfish

This month my wife and I will celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary. In thinking through various events of the past 18 years, I’ve made an interesting discovery. Every single time that we’ve had conflict in our marriage, it was due to someone being selfish. And by someone, I mean me. I’m not going to say that …

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Out-Serve Your Wife

Pastor, craftsman, beekeeper, and all-around Renaissance man Tony McCollum once said that the goal of marriage is to out-serve your spouse. This statement radically changed how I thought about my marriage (so much so that I now see I’ve mentioned it before). I’d always wanted my wife to be happy, and I assumed her happiness would …

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Celebrating 17 Years

My wife and I celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary this past Sunday (it’s not too late to send a gift!). Last year we spent a wonderful weekend hanging out in Atlanta, visiting the Georgia Aquarium, staying on the fifty-somethingth floor of the Westin downtown, and eating at The Sun Dial restaurant on the seventy-first floor with …

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A Quick Word on Service

Today’s post is going to be a short one. This weekend my wife went away for a mini-retreat with some other homeschooling moms, and I stayed home with the kids and dog. Friday morning I realized that she’d never done this before, at least not since we’ve had 4 children. And, actually, the only two …

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Why We Make Vows

The power of a firm commitment lies in sticking to it. If you make a firm commitment to exercise 4 days a week and then you start to let that slide to 3… and then 2… and then… oh never mind, I can’t even finish this sentence. You get the idea; it’s effectively not a …

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What Not to Say to Your Wife

The English language provides a great many words from which to choose to convey our thoughts. Some languages provide more, others less, but all languages use words to transmit the thoughts and feelings of the speaker or writer to any available listeners or readers. Finding the right word for a given moment can be a …

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You Need an Attitude Adjustment, Mister

I’ve lived all of my life in the southeastern United States (“The South,” as we say in the South), and around here we have a saying: “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” This is true no matter what else may be happening with the other family members, partly because everyone wants Mama to be happy …

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The Good Kind of Cheating

Guys, you already know this, but you spend too much time at work. I know I do, and I bet you do, too. We dads tell ourselves (and our wives) that we’re working long hours to provide for our families. But, more than our provision, our wives (and kids, too, for that matter) want our presence. …

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The Best Way to Love Your Wife

When we talk about loving our wives (and our kids, for that matter), what do we mean? We may know we love our wives, and we may hope and trust that they know it, but what is the best way to really show it? It may look a little different for everyone, but ultimately we …

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Always Worth the Effort

As I lay in bed the other night, my wife’s elbow in my back and my 7-year-old son cutting off the circulation in my right arm, I actually had the thought: “My life is amazing. This is exactly what I signed up for.” And it is. Family life is sometimes sweet and peaceful, sometimes painful …

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